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Is Marriage Obsolete?

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Marriage certainly has its problems but as they say about Democracy, it sure beats the alternatives, according to author Lisa Levey. Matt Richtel’s Sept. 28th New York Times article “Till Death, or 20 Years, Do Us Part” explores the question of whether marriage in its current form has become obsolete. Given the reality that nearly half of all marriages break …

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Are We Pushing Our Kids Too Hard To Succeed?

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To raise a successful child today, must parents act more like talent agents than personal guides? Lisa Levey asks if pushing our children to succeed could do more harm than good. During the Olympics, we watched the incredible talent of young athletes from around the world strut their stuff. The cameras repeatedly panned to the eager parents, watching intently from …

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Being a Single Mother by Choice

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Lisa Levey shares the story of Jennifer, a single mother by choice. The interview includes how she came to the decision, the process and everything she’s learned along the way. Eager to tell the real-life story of a single mother by choice, I interviewed Jennifer, a Boston area real estate professional. She’d always wanted to get married and be a …

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The Best Father’s Day Present of All: Letting Dad Parent on His Own Terms

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People learn best by doing, so Lisa Levey challenges mothers to let the fathers of their children figure out parenting on their own terms, even if it means fumbling from time to time. As mothers, we know that the most powerful lessons our children learn often come about as a result of direct experience rather than “being told.” Yet many …

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One Dad’s Journey of Parental Leave

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Roy Marden was the last person anyone — even his wife — thought would be the primary care taker for his infant daughter. He admittedly felt ambivalent about the idea of becoming a parent. He thoroughly enjoyed the lifestyle that he and his wife, Charon, could afford with two careers and no children. Roy runs his own business as a …

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Six Strategies for Co-parenting Before Divorce

This post originally appeared in The Good Men Project on 

Co-parenting within an intact family requires strategies to support parents’ work-life balance in less gendered ways, says Lisa D’Annolfo Levey. In doing a Google search on the word co-parenting, I quickly found that co-parenting is a word we reserve for divorced families, not intact ones. Isn’t it strange that in 2012 we don’t have a word—a common vocabulary—to describe mothers …

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Why Many Consider Feminism the Other F Word

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Sarah Jackson’s November 21 column “The Unconscious Feminist” on Role/Reboot sparked great interest and intense debate. Ms. Jackson described discovering, during a conversation with a close woman friend, that while they shared a very similar ideology regarding the issue of racial inequality—namely that it exists, persists, and requires education and ongoing action to counteract—her friend did not perceive gender inequality …

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The Gender Dance – Men and Women Going Round and Round: Let’s Find a New Step

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I’m someone who has spent much of her life thinking about and observing gender differences. Growing up in a clear patriarchy, I was very aware that women seemed to have few choices and little influence. Perhaps it’s no surprise, then, that I spent most of my career over the last two plus decades focused on better understanding gender as a …

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