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An Untold Story: The Work-Life Struggles of Men With Stay-at-Home Wives

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National Work and Family Month seems a particularly good time to call out a group we rarely associate with work-life struggles, men with stay-at-home wives. It’s easy to conclude that men in traditional families have few limitations on their work availability. There is a deep bias that these men can work very long days, travel often — on short notice …

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Why the ‘Less Ambitious’ Man Is the Secret to Better Work-Life Balance for All

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Highly ambitious men are generally considered very desirable as both leaders and mates. But recent news out of Harvard Business School and the 10th Anniversary of National Work and Family Month got me thinking about how the “less ambitious” man is the real key to making better work-life balance — and gender equality — a reality. Let me explain. In …

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Pondering the Light and “Dark Side” of How We Work

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Hunkering down during superstorm Sandy, like so many on the East Coast this week, I kept thinking about how work is quite different from when I entered the professional workforce in the 1980s. As an investment analyst in my early career, I went into the office in the morning, spent the lion’s share of the day at my desk or …

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The Pressure to Have It All and the Need to Redefine Success

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In 1963 Betty Friedan articulated “the problem with no name” as the pressure women experienced to feel fulfilled only by their roles as wives and mothers. I contend that nearly 50 years later we have a new problem with no name, the pressure to feel fulfilled only by “having it all.” And what does all mean? It is an ambitious …

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Is Marriage Obsolete?

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Marriage certainly has its problems but as they say about Democracy, it sure beats the alternatives, according to author Lisa Levey. Matt Richtel’s Sept. 28th New York Times article “Till Death, or 20 Years, Do Us Part” explores the question of whether marriage in its current form has become obsolete. Given the reality that nearly half of all marriages break …

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Are We Pushing Our Kids Too Hard To Succeed?

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To raise a successful child today, must parents act more like talent agents than personal guides? Lisa Levey asks if pushing our children to succeed could do more harm than good. During the Olympics, we watched the incredible talent of young athletes from around the world strut their stuff. The cameras repeatedly panned to the eager parents, watching intently from …

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Being a Single Mother by Choice

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Lisa Levey shares the story of Jennifer, a single mother by choice. The interview includes how she came to the decision, the process and everything she’s learned along the way. Eager to tell the real-life story of a single mother by choice, I interviewed Jennifer, a Boston area real estate professional. She’d always wanted to get married and be a …

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The Best Father’s Day Present of All: Letting Dad Parent on His Own Terms

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People learn best by doing, so Lisa Levey challenges mothers to let the fathers of their children figure out parenting on their own terms, even if it means fumbling from time to time. As mothers, we know that the most powerful lessons our children learn often come about as a result of direct experience rather than “being told.” Yet many …

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One Dad’s Journey of Parental Leave

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Roy Marden was the last person anyone — even his wife — thought would be the primary care taker for his infant daughter. He admittedly felt ambivalent about the idea of becoming a parent. He thoroughly enjoyed the lifestyle that he and his wife, Charon, could afford with two careers and no children. Roy runs his own business as a …

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Six Strategies for Co-parenting Before Divorce

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Co-parenting within an intact family requires strategies to support parents’ work-life balance in less gendered ways, says Lisa D’Annolfo Levey. In doing a Google search on the word co-parenting, I quickly found that co-parenting is a word we reserve for divorced families, not intact ones. Isn’t it strange that in 2012 we don’t have a word—a common vocabulary—to describe mothers …

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